Posts Tagged ‘presuppositions’

24
Aug

Liberty and license vs. holiness and safety

   Posted by: Tamra    in Spiritual

I posted this over a year ago, but thought it good to mull over again, especially in light of recently going through Romans 14 in church.

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I always listen/read with great interest when the topic of entertainment is discussed as it pertains to its appropriateness for Christians.  It usually begins with a discussion of whether or not a certain book or movie is okay for Christians to watch/read.  Some say that fiction is just that - fiction, and therefore shouldn’t be regarded as a big, scary enemy.  Others say that Christians must carefully guard what they see/hear and only allow what is good and pure.  (Phil 4:8)

Both sides have their points, and the discussion heats up.  Liberty is pitted against high standards.  Yes, we have freedom, and as long as we aren’t sinning, we are free to choose certain things. And yes, we are to feed on that which is good, so that we are growing.

There are usually cautions on both sides, since it is true that forever indulging in the freedoms we have can lead to a spiritual lukewarmness, and yet insisting on the opposite is not acknowledging the inevitable inconsistency in our own life.

I’m not sure how accurately Phil 4:8 is used.  I do know that Jesus saw and heard many, many things that were not pure and lovely when he was partying with the sinners.  Or even dining and talking with them.  Being Godly doesn’t mean removing ourselves from the culture around us.  And yet If we were honest about the context in which Phil 4:8 is usually heralded, then for some, watching the Food Network would be in direct violation of that verse.  The fact is, there are some things we should rightly avoid!

How, then, do we decide on whether or not we ourselves should enjoy a certain object of entertaining media?  I think the right questions to ask ourselves is not whether the media itself is evil or not, but should be regarding our purpose, maturity and response.

Are we viewing what we come in contact with through the correct lens?  Are we in prayer and the Word enough that we are able to discern what is being thrown at us?  Are we capable of enjoying the entertainment value without stumbling, or is it causing us to feed our flesh?

It isn’t necessary to be afraid of everything, seeing a devil around every corner.  We don’t need to fear culture.  We should recognize it, learn it, and use it.

And then someone always, always, has to say something to the effect of “Well I don’t enjoy x, y, or z and never have, and I don’t see how anyone could!”

And that’s where my head falls in my hands, as I sadly realize that once again we miss the point.

The problem with saying such a thing is that, in essence, one is saying that they themselves are the standard to which everyone else must measure up.

And that is not only a scary view, it is hideously wrong.

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2
Aug

you got some ’splainin to do

   Posted by: Tamra    in Spiritual, Writings

When people who don’t know me happen to catch a glimpse of the inside of my van, part of me wants to just sink quietly into the parking lot until I disappear.  The other part of me wants to immediately cry out, Ya gotta understand… I have six children!

Because it could use a little, um… vacuuming?

More like, it could use a large claw that would pick it up, turn it sideways, then shake it out.

A heavy-duty power-washer would be nice, too.

Or when I’m making a quick trip alone to the store and realize I have a dried snot loogy on the front of my shirt.  It’s too late to run to the restrooms and frantically try to scrub it out.  I’m at the checkout, and not only has everyone in the store seen it, but the lady ringing up my order has already noticed it and is avoiding eye contact so as not to invite the weird hippie (me) to start talking about her 30 cats and egg carton collection.

I want to explain, I didn’t use the front of my shirt as a snot receptacle, honest!  I always use a tissue.  Just like normal people!  I just happened to console my crying young boy who had fallen minutes before I walked out of the door to come here.  I take regular showers, too.

Yeah.  So, there’s lots of things I want to explain to people.  At times I can almost hear the assumptions being made, because I do that too.  And so do you.

Yes, you do.

It’s like that with our house, too.

I love our house. Absolutely, love it.  I love the craftsmanship, the history, the attention to detail, and the huge number of closets.  But when someone comes for the first time who hasn’t known us for long, I want to explain it away.  I want to clarify that I don’t believe I’m something because of having something.

I want to describe how, years ago, we had a new house and lots of toys and new furniture and sporty cars and everything we wanted and then sold it all and then simplified and sold more stuff and grew two big gardens then simplified more and lived in a small cabin and milked goats and raised chickens and *ack* didn’t even have lights or a flush toilet and then I want to tell them the story of how we got the house and the thought behind it and our intention for it and then add all the God stuff like prayer and and how many people we have over and how we try to practice words like hospitality and stewardship…

Now, some labels don’t bother me, even if they’re wrong.

(Like the recent accusation that I’m a brainless wife who just parrots my husband and does whatever he tells me.  It was better to just play it up and act as if they were right, and so much more fun!)

(The same person labeled me a Neo-Christian.  I have to admit I didn’t even know what that was.)

(Actually, the exact term was a “f*cking Neo-Christian”.  But it was meant in the kindest way, I’m sure.)

Stuff like that makes me smile.  But, other labels…?  Not so much.

Because I don’t want people to think I’m materialistic.  I’m afraid of being labeled shallow and greedy. I don’t want to be thought of as someone who thinks they’re better.

All that explaining I want to do sometimes?  It would be to make me look better in the way I want to look better.

Which really is just another form of pride.

I guess the important thing is to just consistently check my attitude, intentions, and motivation, then leave the rest to God.  If I have to always clarify and explain, then maybe my heart isn’t right.  Actions reveal what is in the heart.

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19
Jul

Don’t waste your life ~ Revisited

   Posted by: Tamra    in Outside the box, Spiritual

Someone recently posted a quote on Facebook from John Piper’s book, Don’t Waste Your Life, spurring some old thoughts on the subject. The following was originally posted back in April of 2008.

Don’t Waste Your Life

I’m currently reading a book with that title, and it’s really challenging me in good ways.

The author, John Piper, writes about the tragedy of a wasted life.  He begins by citing a married couple who take an early retirement in their late 50’s and spend their time in Florida cruising on their boat, playing softball and collecting shells.

We can waste our life no matter what our age and occupation.  It’s not a salvation issue.  We can fully belong to Christ and still end up with a wasted life. As Piper puts it, we could get to Heaven and say to Jesus, “Here, look at my seashells”.

Writing specifically to the Christian, he takes a whole 3 chapters to illustrate how our purpose is to pursue God’s glory… and enjoy it in the process.  So our joy is His joy.  Our meaning is displaying His greatness.  In creating us for His glory, he creates us for our highest joy.

This is a strange thought to an unbeliever.  If anyone else were to exult themselves to that level, we would view them selfish to the extreme.  One might ask, If God can love me, how can it be love to create something to simply glorify himself?   But that is viewing it from our distortion of love.  We think love is being made much of.  It’s making self the object of our highest affection, and evaluating everyone by how they treat us, how they make us feel, how they value us.

But God changes that distorted view of love.  He liberates from the bondage of self-regard so that we enjoy making much of him forever.  This is true fullness of joy.  This supreme satisfaction is what should call the Christian to truly love others.  Not by making them feel good about themselves, but by showing them God and His gospel.

Piper puts it this way.  “To make them feel good about themselves when they were made to feel good about seeing God is like taking someone to the Alps and locking them in a room full of mirrors.”

I read for a couple more chapters, enjoying his illustrations and stories.  Then I came to a surprising chapter about taking risk.  He wrote,

“If our single, all-embracing passion is to make much of Christ in life and death, and if the life that magnifies him most is the life of costly love, then life is risk, and risk is right.  To run from it is to waste your life.”

1 Corinthians 15:31, Luke 9:23, 2 Corinthians 4:16-17 and 12:9-10

Whatever gain I had [in life], I counted as loss for the sake of Christ.  Indeed, I count everything as loss because of he surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord.  For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that i may gain Christ. Philippians 3:7-8

We do not know the future.  We don’t even know what will happen for sure within the next five minutes.  In this aspect, we cannot avoid risk.  It’s a part of us.  It should cause us to acknowledge that there is no real security.  He writes that our myth of safety needs to be exploded.

Take the story of Esther.  She did not have a special revelation from God.  She simply made a decision based on wisdom, love for her people, and trust in God. She did not know what the outcome of her actions would be, but handed the results over to God saying, “…and if I perish, I perish.”

Look at what happened to the people of Israel when they stood at the border of the Promised Land, unable to explode their myth of safety.  They didn’t want to take the risk of battling the giants and instead murmured, complained and even spoke of returning to Egypt!  The result?  Wasted years and wasted lives.

I’ll again quote Piper for he says it best.

“What about you?  Are you caught in the enchantment of security, paralyzed from taking any risks for the cause of God?  Or have you been freed by the power of the Holy Spirit from the mirage of Egyptian safety and comfort?  Do you men ever say with Joab, “For the sake of the name, I’ll try it!  And may the LORD do what seems good to him”?  Do you women ever say with Esther, “For the sake of Christ, I’ll try it!  And if I perish, I perish”?

So many times its tempting to remain stagnant because its easy to worship at the idol of security.  What that really means is bowing down to fear.  Fear of the unknown is a difficult thing.  It’s been challenging to me search my heart and root it out.

There’s a need for prayer to ask for guidance and wisdom.  And then there’s the next step of taking action.  How easy it would be for me to never move forward by simply claiming that I’m not clear what God’s direction is in a certain area!

I am not a natural risk taker.  But being married to a man who isn’t afraid of change and risk stretches me, and yet frees me.  I have peace because I pray continually for God’s will and hand in all my husband’s decisions.  Therefore I can simply trust, because by following him I am in essence trusting in God.  So even if he makes what I think is a bad choice, I can lay it at Christ’s feet and not fret or worry.

The last thought that’s challenged me in this book so far (I’m not finished so there’s sure to be more!) is what Piper calls a “wartime lifestyle”.  When making choices, especially about how we spend money, it should be with this wartime mindset.

We acknowledge there is a war going on between Christ and Satan, truth and falsehood, belief and unbelief, and there are weapons to be funded and used.  Weapons of the Gospel, prayer, and self-sacrificing love.

How easy it is to slip into a “peacetime mindset” and focus on comfort and fun.   Or just get wrapped up in my own day to day busyness and forget the larger picture.  If there truly is a war, how can I be content to live a life of ease?  To simply work, play, sleep and repeat day after day?  To talk only to the same people; those like-minded individuals or families who are just like me?  To live without truly engaging others by isolating myself within my home and my family?

This was challenging in and of itself.  But then I came across this paragraph;

“Why not speak of a “simple lifestyle”?  It is more helpful to think of a wartime lifestyle than a merely simple lifestyle.  Simplicity may have a romantic ring and a certain aesthetic appeal that is foreign to the dirty business of mercy in the dangerous places of the world.  Simplicity may also overlook the fact that, in wartime, major expenses for complex weapons and troop training are needed.  These may not look simple, and may be very expensive, but the whole country sacrifices to make them happen.  Simplicity may be inwardly directed and may benefit no one else.  A wartime lifestyle implies that there is a great and worthy cause for which to spend and be spent. (2 Corinthians 12:15)”

What a great thought.  Simplicity is so often over-romanticized.  In an effort to stick to basics, the focus can increasingly become self and it becomes an idol. 

While we are patting ourselves on the back for practicing frugality and plainness, those on the front lines of battle are crying out for our help and support.

Further, the related terms independent homesteading and self-sufficient living can be used to justify a reclusive lifestyle.  Maybe it’s helpful in a limited sense to our self when we are isolated and practice mere avoidance.  But how does that impact anyone, especially for the Gospel?  How does that prepare our children for what they’re sure to face if they do not choose the same reclusive lifestyle?

Ultimately, whether we squander our time here on earth, become immobilized by fear of risk, or end up too focused on our tiny dot of the universe, we’re likely to miss the fullness of a life lived radically for Christ.

We’re likely to waste our lives.

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16
Jul

what’s that you say?

   Posted by: Tamra    in Random, Spiritual, Writings

So often, we hear things very differently than what was actually said.

We could say that the fault of a communication misunderstanding lies in the poor expression on the part of the one doing the talking, but more often than not, we filter what we hear through our preconceived notions.

Basically, we are already making assumptions, and so we presume things that were never stated, let alone implied. This causes unnecessary confusion, inaccurate information, offenses, and hurt feelings.

We do it in marriage:

Husband: I’m planning on going canoeing with the guys on Saturday.

Wife hears:  I don’t love you as much as you love me.

We do it with acquaintances:

Person A:  I hate spaghetti.

Person B hears:  You like spaghetti, therefore you’re stupid.

It takes conscious effort to overcome our “auto-pilot” ears and endeavor to listen with an open mind.  Sometimes we even have to say, “I heard you say ____.  Is that what you meant?”  It seems silly, but I think the extra work is worth it.

Christians, especially, should be able to overcome differing personalities, worldviews, and culture to communicate on a deeper level.  May we have the mind of Christ that allows us to truly “hear” another person’s heart.

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Just recently, for close to four weeks I eliminated all sugar and gluten (grains, flour, etc) from my diet. My cravings were minimal and I enjoyed feeling my system regain balance. I was also able to recognize something I hadn’t before, at least on this level.

I already mentioned that I really didn’t struggle too much with cravings.  Sure, here and there I would want something that would take a bit of self-control and willpower to say no to, but for the most part it went pretty smoothly.

Until one evening.

Some stresses had been building up for the past few days, and on this particular evening I was feeling discouraged and very frustrated.  And suddenly, I was craving chocolate.  Ice cream.  Wine.  You name it, I wanted it.

I managed to not succumb to the temptations that were threatening, but it dawned on me how much food can be a crutch.  Or something we use to comfort ourselves. Or reward ourselves.  Or numb ourselves.  We feel a bit stressed or put under pressure, and it’s just knee-jerk to use food or drink for consolation.

I don’t think most of us are concerned about this.  So what, right?  Except when we turn to cookies, we probably aren’t turning to God who would love to have us bring our struggles to him in prayer.  We probably aren’t even turning to friends, which is also what God has provided for comfort, encouragement and counsel.

What’s worse is we end up subconsciously teaching our children this habit.  Lose a game?  Let’s all go out for ice cream.  Celebrating a birthday?  Let’s binge on fluorescent cake and chemicals labeled as candy.  Get all A’s?  Let’s splurge on sugary junk.

Our children get the message loud and clear.  Food, particularly the completely non-nourishing, disease-causing kind, is the perfect reward, comforter, and joy.

What if food was just food?  What if, when I did want to indulge, I based my choices on thoughtful consideration instead of ingrained habit?  What if I only enjoyed a piece of chocolate or a glass of wine when I simply wanted to revel in it’s taste?  What if I celebrated birthdays with fresh strawberries and real whipped cream?  What if a treat could be one hearty homemade cookie?

This has been a long, gradual change in our home, one that I often let slip and (even more frustrating) one that is constantly undermined by our culture’s mindless traditions and foolish patterns.   I’m trying hard to instill in my children a different way of viewing food.

But first I have to view it differently myself.

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1
Jun

Enjoying the past, but not living in it

   Posted by: Tamra    in Outside the box, Writings

Hope you enjoyed your holiday weekend!  Let’s revisit an older post..

Whenever Robb and I move, the change is pretty significant.  Each time there are people who are excited for us and share in our enthusiasm, and some who are disappointed and ask us why.

And every time, I am asked time and time again if I miss what we left behind.  My answer is usually the same.  Some aspects I’ll miss, and others I won’t.

It’s as if they don’t believe a certain ancient author when he stated so wisely after he had tried everything under the sun, “All is vanity.”

Some said we had it all when we had all new furniture, Corvette, Camaro, jet skis and snowmobiles.  (It could just as easily be said that we really screwed up when we got in over our heads and up to our ears in debt, stuck in the snobbery and mediocrity of subdivided neighborhoods.)

What about when we had a theme bedroom for our two children - the ideal size of one boy and one girl?  (We got some furrowed eyebrows when we shared the news baby number three was on her way.)

Then some celebrated when we changed everything and moved to an older home with 2 large gardens and a small hobby farm.  (The flip side: I was going to run myself ragged trying to be Holly Homemaker - tsk tsk.)

And, oh, when we moved to a cozy cabin on acreage, complete with wood heat… We were living some people’s lifelong dream, while others had CPS on speed dial, sure we were going to spend the winter huddling in the dirt sipping on cold gruel.

Then the lake house.  Ironically, the same people who had expressed grave concern over moving TO the farm, now thought we were insensitive meanies dragging our children AWAY from their beloved animals.  Depending on the person, the lake was either a fun-filled adventure, or a gaping mouth of death.

So what about now, in a large craftsman made ‘mansion’?  To hear others tell the story, it’s either we’re enjoying a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, or we’re yet again proving our insanity.  To some it’s a big mistake, fraught with risk and too much work, while to others it’s a wonderful opportunity.

The point is, they all have their blessings and their downsides.  We enjoy the lessons, without getting bogged down too much by the notion that the place is the answer.

Maybe, if you can’t be happy where you are, you probably won’t be happy anywhere else either.  And if you’re simply content where you are now, then even if you ended up changing everything, you’d probably be just as satisfied.

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26
May

For the record

   Posted by: Tamra    in Outside the box, Vaccinations, health, parenting

Let’s clear some things up.

I am not against medicine, science or technology.

If it weren’t for all those things, I probably would have died during my first pregnancy/birth.  Several friends of mine would have had tiny caskets to bury instead of enjoying a healthy toddler today.  Others I know would have died from cancer long ago.  The list goes on.

With that being said, there are a lot of tenets surrounding medicine, science and technology that I question.  I think we all should question, be willing to at least dig for the why’s and how’s, and then still be willing to say we just don’t absolutely know.  Taking our ques from the latest media or doggedly following a doctor’s opinion is setting oneself up for some big mistakes.

I hate giving specific examples because so often people get lost on a tangent as they frantically point out all the exceptions and what happened to their sister’s husband’s boss’s friend, but here goes…

A lot of people thought I was crazy seven years ago when I threw out all our plastic toys and sippy cups.  I just bit my tongue when about five or six years later the larger media caught wind of the story and then finally the majority of parents knew enough to be enraged about toxins like lead and BPA in our children’s items.

I’ve been asked why on earth I would use cloth diapers in this day and age.  What most parents don’t know is that many disposable diapers contain a long list of chemicals.  Sure, as a parent you can just trust that the “experts” are doing their job of keeping products safe.  But I’m just not the sort of person who waits for the diaper companies to write on their packages, “Caution, this product contains an ingredient similar to the substance that was banned from tampons long ago due to it’s link to toxic shock syndrome. Use at your own risk.”  Suddenly, the telltale droopy dangle from a soaked gel-filled diaper isn’t quite so darling.

And I mentioned my first pregnancy.  Yeah, it was medicine and technology that ended up saving me, but it was my unresponsible, unquestioning trust in them that got me there in the first place.

You see, I was diagnosed with really high blood pressure later in my pregnancy that progressed to eclampsia and toxemia.   Their standard protocol was to eat more saltines, drink more water, and rest with my feet up.  I have no idea who comes up with this stuff.  That kind of salt is perhaps the worst thing I could have been eating.  Since I was gaining weight so rapidly due to my blood pressure problems, I was avoiding protein and good fats.  Again, the worst thing I could have done.  But they told me I was doing it exactly right.

I was also eating fast food every day for 2 of my meals.  I started out packing a lunch, but severe pregnancy exhaustion, plus the fact that I had to be at work at 6:30 am, meant that habit quickly died.  I would usually grab a cheeseburger and a water.  Once in a while I’d get the fries too, since a meal was so cheap and I’d get hungry again so quickly after eating.  I thought that beef, dairy, fresh tomato and lettuce, and a bun couldn’t be all that bad.

What most of us don’t know is the extremely high sodium content in those foods, the dyes and preservatives in every single item, and the formaldehyde all fast food beef is washed in.  Yum.

Okay, so this is just one illustration.  My point is, I know so so so so many people who, like I once did, only get their info from one kind of source, end up in trouble, and then need that same source to help save them.

Now, the vaccine issue.

I am not against parents choosing to vaccinate their children.  All parents certainly should do what they believe is best for their children, their circumstance, and their lifestyle.

I also think parents should be getting ALL the information before they make the choice to vaccinate or not vaccinate.

There are risks with not vaccinating, and there are risks with vaccinating.  The sad thing is, most parents do not receive enough information to make an educated decision.  Most of them ask their pediatrician, and 99% of them will scare parents into vaccinating.

It’s not the doctors’ fault.  We want to believe that they know all the information there is, pro and con, and will pass that on to us.  The largest problem with this is, they get one-sided information handed to them, too.  Doctors are bombarded with tons of papers and journals that are almost impossible to sort through fully.  They fall back on the trusted assumptions that have morphed over the years into spoon-fed dogma.  They’ll say things like “vaccines are estimated to save millions of lives each year”.  They’ll bring up polio and state how the vaccine has virtually eradicated it.  If all else fails, they may, at best, paint the “anti-vaccine” people as ignorant fools who are unaware of the history of vaccinations that have made our “virtually disease-free” society possible, or at worst, as quacks who fall prey to conspiracy theories and put all of us at risk.

What the majority of parents fail to learn is that vaccine damage is not opinion, but based on documented facts with detailed references, most of it from the Center of Disease Control (CDC) itself.  They don’t hear things like the fact that there are more than one hundred vaccine antigens that are injected into children before kindergarten, that the U.S. has paid more than $1 billion to vaccine injured people, that most outbreaks occur in fully vaccinated or over 95% vaccinated populations, that the government’s own records clearly show that childhood diseases (including polio) were in sharp decline before the introduction of vaccines, that vaccines contain at least 39 different toxic additives, preservatives and cell types introduced during the manufacturing process, that the combination effect of all these toxins in children has never been studied (nor has the effect several toxins and antigens being administered at the same time been studied), that cow, chicken, pig, monkey, and human fetus tissue are commonly used in the manufacturing of vaccines, that therefore vaccines can contain contaminants from these animals that are passed on to the vaccinated child…

When it comes to the supposed safety of vaccines, most parents never learn that vaccine studies are relatively small, short and include only healthy children.  When a vaccine trial has been completed, however, vaccines are given to all children, regardless of the condition of their health, family history, or genetics.   Most clinical trials monitor side effects for only 21 days, and sometimes even for only 5 days.

In addition, most parents are shocked to learn that vaccine safety studies do not use a true placebo. One of the standards in medical research is the “placebo-controlled” trial. An inactive substance such as a sugar pill is given as a placebo to one group of participants, while the treatment group is given the new drug. The data is analyzed to compare the number of side effects that occurred in those given the drug compared to the numbers of side effects that occurred in those given the placebo. However, the “placebo” used in vaccine research is not an inert substance such as sterile water; it is another vaccine. Inert, sterile water doesn’t cause a reaction; as substitute vaccine can. If both groups of babies in a trial have the same number of reactions, the study reports that the vaccine “is as safe as a placebo.” This is deceptive science.

It all ties together with the never-discussed fact that vaccine-induced antibodies do not correlate with protection. In fact, the journal Vaccine stated this clearly: “It is known that, in many instances, antigen-specific antibody titers do not correlate with protection.” (The full reference can be found at PMID: 11587808)

I fully vaccinated my first two children fully, including boosters, with no noticeable negative effects.  I never even questioned the idea of vaccinations.

That changed with my third child.  No one at all ever mentioned that she could be at higher risk since she had struggled with things like thrush and severe constipation all through infancy.  I don’t think my doctor even knew of the correlation between vaccine damage and gut health.  And I didn’t know enough then to realize that the health of my child was my responsibility, not my doctor’s.  Lesson learned.

So I will continue to communicate the side of vaccines that isn’t so prevalent.  Parents have a right to be educated about vaccines.  When I hear parents spout the same old tired fear-based mantras surrounding vaccines, I know they aren’t educated on both sides of the issue.  When they are offended by factual information regarding the dangers of vaccines, treat my children as if they carry the plague, or ridicule my choice, it’s a clear sign they aren’t informed.  They are indoctrinated.

I don’t even think all parents should not vaccinate!  If a parent is not willing to hold themselves fully responsible for their child’s health, carry out the difficult task of nourishing their bodies consistently so they can lead healthy lives, and learn effective alternatives to treat problems, then they should vaccinate.  I even tell parents that I will not try to convince them one way or the another.  I will give information, but a parent needs to be fully persuaded in their own mind of their decision.

This could also go for such things as giving birth at home, drinking raw milk, and writing opinionated blogs.

Bottom line…  I fully appreciate and would in a heartbeat make full use of the wonderful and life-saving medicine and technology available.

I also believe, just as strongly, in making fully informed decisions as to why, when, and how I make use of it.

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18
May

If only

   Posted by: Tamra    in Outside the box, Random

There’s a trend in advertisements and movie themes.  It goes like this…

I want to break away from my humdrum existence.  I could if only I had the time/money/opportunity/different spouse/better job. Someday, I will escape the routine I’m trapped in.

Oh, how we love to think that we’re spontaneous!  We despise lack of variety.  We hate tiresome repetitiveness.  Deep inside, we’re courageous and impulsive.

But, boy, do we ever squawk when life throws a curve ball.

Who are we kidding?

No one is forcing us to do the same darn thing every day, week after week, for months and years on end.  In fact, life does everything it can to force us out of our routine.  Flat tires, sick children, broken internet connections..  They all attempt to shake us up and order our days differently.

And yet, when we have a choice, most of us would choose to continue running on our stationary spinning wheel, exerting much energy while going nowhere.

It’s way nicer to think that if only, then we would x, y or z.

Okay, then how about ordering something different at the restaurant? Wear a color you’ve never worn before?

Still think you’re a Viking, exploring new and exciting territory?

For just for a moment, let’s forget fantasizing about some big, crazy escapade.  How about just doing something you’ve never done before… today?  One new thing, every day, for a week?  Even if it’s just a little thing.

I dare ya.

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28
Apr

Weaknesses are not signs of holiness

   Posted by: Tamra    in Spiritual

Boundaries and personal limitations are a good thing.

Choosing to abstain from or moderate certain things (sex, certain foods, movies, alcohol, certain kinds of relationships or friendships, certain attachments, etc) is not only good, it is sometimes needful.

Let’s also remember why we have restrictions in the first place, which is that we are sinners who recognize our natural inclination to sin.

It’s ironic that we begin with recognizing a weakness in an area, are convicted to forgo something to guard against sinning in that area, and then over time, suddenly see our act of refraining as a mark of holiness.

The biggest problem with that is then we believe others should also avoid whatever it is we are avoiding, because our twisted minds turn our propensity of weakness in that area into a personal particular strength.

It would be funny if it wasn’t so damaging.

While we should always be checking ourselves and guarding against apathetic acceptance of potentially detrimental activities, there is no higher virtue through shunning things that are not evil in and of themselves.

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27
Apr

You’re not a foot, and I’m not a hand

   Posted by: Tamra    in Spiritual

We talk about how we as Christians are the body of Christ.

We know it, we understand, we preach it, we live it.  And then we do something weird.

We forget it.

If we’re a hand, we do all the things that a hand was designed to do.  Maybe we’re especially gifted to help those who are suffering and downtrodden, and we find great blessing in doing what we are called to do in a way that we are called to do it.

But then we look at a foot and think, why aren’t they doing what I’m doing and in the way I’m doing it?  Can’t they see that there’s fruit in this?  Just think of all that could be accomplished if they did it, too!

Um, what good would it do anyone to have 387 hands and no feet?  Especially if a large percentage of the hands weren’t really hands, but feet and ears and veins trying to do the work of hands?

Robb and I love to have people of all kinds in our home.  We enjoy being a part of the community and getting to know people of all beliefs, worldviews and backgrounds.  We find it easy to develop friendships with people who are very different from ourselves.

What this doesn‘t mean is that we only have people over for Bible studies and prayer, that we only attend Christian events, and that we focus exclusively on fellow believers.

While we don’t hesitate to speak truth where applicable and needed, our focus tends to primarily be on living honorable and honest lives, developing relationships and just having a regular, meaningful presence.

But I don’t expect everyone else to follow suit.

We need people who preach and teach inside the church.  We need people to proclaim the Gospel outside of the church.  We need people who are willing to counsel.  We need those who focus on serving the needy, some who focus on business, others who participate in the arts.

On a personal note, as a woman who is okay with having a variety of people in my home on a daily basis, I would also be wrong to presume that all other women should do the same.  As a couple who loves being out and about, we would be erroneous to expect everyone else to conform to that standard.

No part or function is more or less important or needed than another.

May we appreciate and give grace to all who are of the body.

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